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Hi,

First, thank you to everyone who sent birthday greetings and/or virtual gifts here or elsewhere :-) They were all greatly appreciated :-) My birthday was a nice one and Hubby and I had a very nice time at the Bluegrass festival this weekend. He finally had the chance to jam with the River Ramblers (I had jammed with them once before) - he was so thrilled!

Now the reason for the "Varied" in the subject line.

While we were at the festival, Justin called and told us his fiance's father was in the hospital. They found out Friday that he most likely has cancer - they found out today he definitely does. The Dr.s won't be able to be more specific until after they see how he responds to his first treatment, but the initial prognosis is that he has anywhere from 2 weeks to 2 years. Justin and Jill might be having their wedding much sooner than next June - they may even be having it late this week or sometime next week depending on what happens.

This is all weird/hard enough for me to grapple with, I truly have no concept of what their family is going through.

I talked to Jill tonight and she's hanging in there.

I never know what to say - but she told me that's OK that there really isn't anything to say, just be there for her. I can do that :-)

Keep the Coopers and us in your good thoughts and prayers.

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shirebound
Sep. 24th, 2007 01:34 am (UTC)
Oh Pearl, what a shock for everyone!

*sends love and good thoughts*
pearltook1
Sep. 24th, 2007 02:29 am (UTC)
Thank you so much, shirebound :-)

Hugs
garnet_took
Sep. 24th, 2007 02:29 am (UTC)
Oh, that is hard. You'll continue to be in my prayers. Just being there is the best thing you can do. I would never have got through my mom's last few months without my best friend.

Glad you had a good birthday.

And, BTW, the recs for Marigold's Recs were wonderful.:)

*Big, squishy hugs* I know you get the double meaning in that.:)
pearltook1
Sep. 24th, 2007 02:32 am (UTC)
Thank you so much, Garnet :-)

I wish there was more I could do for them. We haven't really got to know them that well yet, so it's difficult. But they are really nice people and I already feel quite close to them.

I'm glad you liked the Recs, I have been concerned about that and it's nice to get some feed back.

"Big, squishy hugs" back to you :-)
quasievil_bunny
Sep. 24th, 2007 11:17 pm (UTC)
((hugs))
pearltook1
Sep. 25th, 2007 03:14 am (UTC)
Thank you for the hugs, they are much needed :-)
captnblood
Sep. 25th, 2007 12:48 am (UTC)
Chere LPT,

A very Happy Belated Bithday to you, m'dear!

And I join your other friends in wishing f/ the best regarding Jill's Dad.

CB
pearltook1
Sep. 25th, 2007 03:17 am (UTC)
Mon ami Capitaine,

Thank you on both counts :-)

I hope your knee and foot are doing better!

LPT
mysteriousways1
Sep. 25th, 2007 08:21 pm (UTC)
As someone who has been in pretty much the same place as Jill, the best thing I ever heard anyone say was "I just don't know what to say" and "Let me know if there is anything I can do". People in Jill's situation really don't expect friends in your situation to have answers or know just the "right" thing to say. You can't fix the situation so all you can do it let folks you care about know that you care. Just be there for them, offer a hug, a shoulder to cry on.

Oh, and if they are all camped at the hospital you might take them a sack of Jimmy John's. Chances are they are not eating that well but if you put food in front of them without asking they will eat it. A roll of quarters for the soda machine would be good too.

Seriously, when in doubt feed grieving people. (((HUGS)))
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