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Hi my friends,

We found out last Thursday that our son will be getting married 3 weeks from today.  His fiance's Dad is doing ok at this time and is home from the hospital in Chicago.  They have found out he needs surgery which will delay the bone marrow transplant until June or July and he will be unable to be out in public for several months after that, so, they have decided to have the wedding now while they know he is fairly stable and one of her sisters will be on Spring Break from college.

The rehearsal and wedding will both be on the same day, with the rehearsal at 9am and the wedding at 3pm, at a lovely golf course country club.  They are figuring on an approx. 15 minute ceremony, a short time of visiting and hors d'oeuvres, then the wedding party will possibly go bowling for the evening.


Life does strange things to us.  But I'm sure it will still be a beautiful occasion.  Justin and Jill are sorry for the rush, though we've been aware for a long time that it could be short notice.  Her Dad is not really happy with the decision as he really wants her to have more the wedding of her dreams.  Bruce and I feel they are making that right choice.


I'm going to endeavor to grump less about my small problems - to not complain very much about the things that happen that are just the normal parts of getting old.  What life we get is a gift that can so easily be lost.  I think most of us need to remember that and not waste our energy on things that take away from the quality of our lives.  I know *I* need to quit wasting my time on stuff that drags me down or keeps me from enjoying life.

I hope all of you are doing well and that your troubles are manageable.

Hugs to everyone :-)


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Mar. 10th, 2008 12:09 am (UTC)
I know *I* need to quit wasting my time on stuff that drags me down or keeps me from enjoying life.

Thank you for that reminder, dear Pearl.
Mar. 10th, 2008 12:34 am (UTC)
You're welcome m'dear shirebound. :-)

Mar. 10th, 2008 02:21 am (UTC)
I'm so sorry to hear about your son's future father-in-law; but I agree with you they've made the right decision. A small wedding now, with her father's presence will mean a lot more than the sorrow they'd have months from now, at a fancy wedding where his absence will be all too obvious. It would cast a pall on what should be a joyful occasion.

And they can always plan to have that "wedding of their dreams" on some future anniversary, and renew their vows then.

And yes, trouble like that does help put life in proportion, doesn't it?
Mar. 10th, 2008 10:53 pm (UTC)
Mar. 11th, 2008 10:52 pm (UTC)
I had been wondering how all that was going. Thank you for the update. ((hugs))

A golf course wedding is soooo fitting!!! I love it!

I just got done reading a lovely book that rather relates to your post in its entirety. "Last Chance Saloon" by Marien Keyes (witty Irish author) is about a group of friends living in London. One of them gets cancer which proves to be a catalys for positive change in the lives of the rest. The tone of the story is very true to life in that it covers all the emotions that one would experience with sundry events over a period of time, in a clear an honest way.

I see more and more people around me choosing to learn to let go of that which is not a positive influence in their lives. I am talking from the biggies like ending poisonous relationships to smaller but still profound things like getting rid of an ugly broken down love seat because it is more depressing to have around than it is functional.

J and J are taking positive action steps to make their wedding the way the want it. They never wanted a big one so all they are letting go of is their original dream location in favor of being sure that her Dad is there. In truth even if he had not got sick they may have changed locations for any number of more mundane reasons.

OMG! I just thought of a particular occaision wh ere you took some seriously positive steps to bring into your life something you really wanted. Bob the Tomato!!! Do you realize that with having your little VW ornaments you had been keeping a visualization for years of what it was you wanted and then ultimately you recognized that the time had come that all was in place for you to finally recieve that car. Good work!!!

I think I am going to write about my experiences in "The Secret" from the perspective of one year later.
Mar. 28th, 2008 04:13 am (UTC)
I know you are probably up to your ears in wedding stuff, but just wanted to ask if you saw one of the spotlight communities for this week. It's backyard birds! I thought you might enjoy it, take care and try not to work too hard! :-)
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