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My Mom

Just wanted to let my friends know that my mother passed away Nov. 18th.

She had Alzheimer's and was in really bad shape physically, so it wasn't entirely unexpected. I wasn't close to her. I loved her but didn't like her that much, if you get what I mean. Even so, it is hitting me harder than I thought it would. :-(

She had all her funeral stuff prearranged. She is being cremated. Because that takes the need to do a service right away out of the equation, my brother and I have decided we will have a memorial for her in the spring after the upcoming holidays and winter weather are past.



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Nov. 19th, 2011 03:30 pm (UTC)
Oh Pearl, I'm so sorry to hear about your mother. What a difficult and heartbreaking year for you and your whole family. I hope you can feel my arms wrapped around you, and the waves of love coming your way.
Nov. 19th, 2011 03:56 pm (UTC)
*deep sigh*
You give wonderful cyber hugs!

Thank you, shirebound :-)

Actually, for someone with Alzheimers, she didn't suffer with it as long as many people do. It had really only been causing noticeable problems for about 2 1/2 to 3 years. She just went into the assisted living home in June and was getting home assistance for about a year before that. It was hard on her and my brother and I because she was still very aware that something was wrong with her and so was always very frustrated

Edited at 2011-11-19 04:02 pm (UTC)
Nov. 19th, 2011 03:55 pm (UTC)
Sorry for your loss, Pearl. *hugs*
Nov. 19th, 2011 04:01 pm (UTC)
Thank you, SS.

Hugs back.
Nov. 19th, 2011 04:20 pm (UTC)
*hugs* I'm so sorry for your loss.
Nov. 21st, 2011 02:24 am (UTC)
Hugs back and thank you.
Nov. 19th, 2011 05:25 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry, Sandy! *Big Hugs* I know she was very sick, but it's always so hard to lose someone.
Nov. 21st, 2011 02:25 am (UTC)
Thank you, m'dear. Yes, it really has surprised me how it's affecting me.
Nov. 19th, 2011 05:52 pm (UTC)
Oh Pearl, I am so sorry for this loss. Even though you weren't close, it is still your mom who has crossed, taking that bit of being a child to someone with her. It can't be replaced, it will be gone. Here's something for comfort, or at least what I can give as a cyberhug:

All of my childhood memories
connected to you
and being a child
All this has been swept away by the wind

Death's warmth
and that cold embrace
Finally that silence in your mind
Confusion has disappeared

That unatainable goal
Now the time has drawn near..
Now that the time has drawn near

Find your peace
Find your love
Goodbye mom
Nov. 19th, 2011 10:39 pm (UTC)
That is lovely and very poignant. Did you write that yourself?
Nov. 19th, 2011 10:55 pm (UTC)
Nov. 21st, 2011 02:31 am (UTC)
That is so lovely,rhapsody! Thank you so much. That is a large part of it all, just the knowing both my parents are gone now.

Hugs and thank you again.
Nov. 19th, 2011 06:12 pm (UTC)
So sorry for your loss. *Hugs*
Nov. 21st, 2011 02:32 am (UTC)
Hugs & thank you, mav_fan.
Nov. 19th, 2011 07:23 pm (UTC)
It's never easy, but it sounds like you have things properly planned out. *hugs*
Nov. 21st, 2011 02:35 am (UTC)
Hugs, Wednesday. It really helped that she and my Dad did the preplanned funeral thing. My brother has been doing such a good job of taking care of everything with her. He moved near her when our dad died - just worked out that way not that he had been planning to - and he's had all the tough time dealing with her illness and all.
Nov. 19th, 2011 07:51 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry.
My Dad passed August 17, rather suddenly. I was close to him, but my brother was not. I think in either case it hits us harder than we expect--
Be good to yourself.
Nov. 21st, 2011 02:36 am (UTC)
Sorry to hear about your dad. HUGS
Yes, endings are harder than we think.

Thank you.
Nov. 19th, 2011 09:53 pm (UTC)
Oh sweetheart! (((((((((hugs))))))))))

Even if you didn't get along, it does hit much harder than you think it would. Let me know if you need anything at all, dear.
Nov. 21st, 2011 02:37 am (UTC)
Hugs and thank you, m'dear.

Maybe if we can find some group chat time after Thanksgiving. (hint, hint) :-) I sure do miss our chats.
Nov. 19th, 2011 10:39 pm (UTC)
i'm so sorry for the loss! it is tough no matter what to lose a close person especially one's own mom. :( :huggles: and condolences to you and your family!
Nov. 21st, 2011 02:38 am (UTC)
Thank you so much, periantari. Huggles back.
Nov. 20th, 2011 11:41 am (UTC)
Nov. 21st, 2011 02:40 am (UTC)
*hugs back* Thank you, m'dear! :-)
Nov. 20th, 2011 05:44 pm (UTC)
Sorry for your loss. I understand how hard it is when you can't fix what's broken.


(BTW, we missed you at ALEP this year.)
Nov. 21st, 2011 02:44 am (UTC)
Thank you, m'dear. Yes, that is part of the sadness I know. I'll do my best to remember the good times and memories.

I missed being there but it just wasn't going to work out financially this time. I hope they have another, I'll try again then. :-)
(that's you on the boat, isn't it?)

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